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Miscellaneous => General Off-Topic => Topic started by: Mark of the Dragon on July 24, 2005, 12:56:49 AM
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Very few of you know this (like, my closest friends here...Trent and Tosoto, to name some of you), but I've never met my father; he just walked out on my mom when she was pregnant with me. He did come back just once to see me when I was a week old...but that's it.
I was randomly looking up names on myspace, and I decided to see if he posted a profile...and it looks like he did. Everything matches, but I won't try to contact him until I'm truly sure.
if you want to view mine, it's <a href='http://www.myspace.com/markofdragon' target='_blank'>http://www.myspace.com/markofdragon</a>
I'll only post his once I know it's him.
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I met my dad after I turned 18
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Whoa. That's kinda...werid. I allways knew my dad. I thought I was far away from him, because I only see him at least once a week.
And now, there's people who do even know there dad. Geez.
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I'm hoping I'll be able to meet him soon...
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Honestly, I don't think it'd be such a fantastic idea. Why do you want to meet him? He's obviously an ass hole that cared nothing for your or your mother. Now of course you could claim that there's a possibility that he's changed, but if that were honestly true, he would've contacted you by now, wouldn't he?
On a semi-positive note, the cause, or at least partial cause, of your cutting addiction is becoming more apparent...
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Yeah, when I met my dad, he was a changed man. Apparently he cheated on my mom when I was 1 or 2, and she left him. He has a new family now, a wife and three kids (1 more on the way). I'm just staying out of his life though, I don't think he had much interest to meet me anyway, he hasn't contacted me since November, even though I have sent him a few emails.
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He has a whole new family of his own now. But still...I feel that I must talk to him just once...
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Probabbly wouldn't be a pleasent conversation. I'd probabbly tell him off if I were you. Hell I'd dragon kick the guy in the face Razz . Not that you should do that... <_<
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I couldn't bring myself to tell him off...it's my father...
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I'm surprized. Most people wouldn't even want anything to do with there father, if they never met them. Well I know I would. If my dad ran off before I was born, I'd hate him.
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I thought I hated him for the longest time...but in all honesty, I hated myself...I always blamed myself for him running off. If my mom hadn't had me, he wouldn't have run off like that.
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Honestly man, what would you say to him if you were to meet him? Do you think he would actually be happy to see you? You may end up causing problems with his current family because his new wife and kids may have no idea he had another child. He could get extremely angry. I really don't think you've thought this through very well. Biologically he's your father, yes, but in an emotional sense, which, BTW, is actually the important part, he's nothing, and to him, you are the same.
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Listen MotD. It's not your fault. Yeah, if your mom never had you, he wouldn't of ran off. But what is your fault you came into this world? No. It was your fathers. You did nothing at all. It's entirely your fathers fault, that he ran off. He shouldn't have even ran off. Saying it's your fault for him running away is kinda like saying it's USA's fault for the WTC bombing because they build it there.
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Actually his father likely would've left his mom eventually. He clearly did not care enough about her to take responsibility and provide for her and their child.
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Yeah, even more of a reason for MotD not to blame himself.
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I hope you have luck with that MotD. I remember reading something about not meeting you dad, somwhere or another.
As for me, I've always known my father, but he recently died (Septemeber 2004), and no, I don't want sympathy or pity. At the time of his death, I was happy he died, same with my grandmother (January 2001 is when she died).
My dad had serveral problems, such as AID's, a brain disease and a few others. It was fatal for him. He was reduced to living on machines, stuck to a hospital bed 24/7 and only being able to eat ice cream, of course, my dad always ate alot of ice cream. When he died, I was happy for him. He was finally going to see his mother.
As for my grandmother, she was even worse of. I forgot what she had, specifically, but she also had lung cancer, which, combined with the disease, disentergrated all of her left and almost all of her right lungs. She also couldn't speak or move, much. She barely even ate. She was also living off machines like my dad.
Now, they are reunited in death, buried besides each other in SouthWindsor, Conneticut. I also moved back to Conneticut recently.
Back to the original topic, like Spydey said, it might cause problems with his new family, if they didn't already know about you. It is possible he told them about you, but also equally unlikely. You could speak to him, if you like, or e-mail him, if you don't want to cause him problems with his other family.
It also means you have 4 half-brothers and sisters.
P.S. If you give me smpathy and pity, I'll beat you over the head with an overly large, smelly, blue fin tuna.
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I've know my dad my whole life but now our relationship is crubling down..... anyway i think you should just talk to hime, maybe form a re-form a relationship with him, just don't bring your mom into it she prolly never wants to see his face again
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Zeros' i just read your post, i live in CT too...Bristol (we have ESPN and Lake Compounce[we rock, j/k]) anyway i have been to south windser a few time but have no clue where it is.. i think its somewhere near wallingford where my dad lives (and my 2 sisters and brother)
I have 3 step-sisters, 1 half sister,a step-brother, and an evil step-mother and a brother, thats what you get when parents get divorced and remariied
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Best of luck MOTD!
I bring the fire you bring the tuna Smile
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Pretty sad story dude.
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i agree with spyder.
its possible he remarried and has kids, and if you contact him and his new family found out the whole thing could bring up bad memories and maybe renew conflict in all your lives, and theres the off chance the whole issue could cause him to leave his wife and new kids, and would you want them to deal with the same things you did?
hes just another stranger.
i bet if you showed up you would really have to convince him your his son.
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At the same time he has every right to see his dad, no matter what it will do to his life.
And anyway his dads new family doesn't have to find out.
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And hey, if it dose bring conflict into his father's life. He deseverves it. He ran away from him, so he should have to put up with the guilt of being a coward.
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And what's messed up is that i might be a father....
I with you the best MotD! You are my friend afterall...